Personal post below the GIF, for those who don't care. Fair warning, there is an NSFW pic at the bottom.
I hope this doesn't end up too vague, because I try to maintain some sort of anonymity on the web. I need to get it off my chest, though.
My partner and I have been together for nearly 6 years now. He works in retail as a store manager, and I work in logistics. Recently, he's been flying back and forth to another state because a store manager was fired and the store was in utter disarray. He's one of the best managers his company has, so he was the one sent to clean up the mess. While he's been there, his boss and the boss there have dropped hints that they might want him there. He mentioned it to me in passing, and my reaction was, shall we say, less than positive. A big part of that is that I absolutely love living in Colorado and I do not want to move from here ever. I'm also not too high on the idea of moving to a very red state, but since I naturally like the same things that 99% of straight guys like (with one major exception), I usually get along with them just fine and I don't think we'd have to worry too much.
What really scared me the most is that I would not have a job anymore. My company does not operate there, so I'd need to start over from scratch. I've been with this company for almost 9 years now, and it had been intended to be temporary. I'd lost my previous job, and it took me 2 months to get this job. The economy hasn't exactly improved since then. I'd almost certainly end up with a job that pays less than I make now. Since the city we'd be in is much smaller, the prospects for the line of work I'm in would not be thrilling.
However, it's likely that if he were to take this job that it would be a salary increase of 30-40% for him. That would be more than enough to offset my shortfall. Also, the city we'd be in looks like they have a significantly lower cost of living than here. I looked at some houses for sale there, and was floored by how cheap they are. We live in a condo now, but there we could likely afford to buy an actual house with a 2-car garage and a nice yard.
I feel like a dick now for telling him no. Sure I'd lose my job if we go, but I'd be losing a job where I've felt like I've been in a rut for 2-3 years now. They love me and the work I do, but that love has not translated to raises or benefits. Even if I had to work in a gas station, that would at least be a change. The bottom line is, he deserves a promotion and a raise especially with the crap he's had to put up with at his company for the last couple of years.
So tonight when I talk to him, I'm going to tell him that if they offer a job to him at the money he's thinking they'd offer, that he should take it. This whole situation is still hypothetical anyway as there's been no formal offer yet, but I'd rather be a guy who supports their spouse than one who stands in the way of them being happy or successful.
And for any Opponauts that bothered to read through my personal crap, here's a pic of a hot girl. Or what I'd guess is a hot girl. I don't have a good eye for them.