I’m sorry to put my personal stuff on Oppo, but I don’t have the strength to tell family and friends just yet. My father has health problems and the news may literally kill him. The wife and I have decided to part ways. Any advice from those that have been thru this before? Can you provide some hope by telling me how much happier you are now that it’s all over? We are thinking of doing a non-contested instead of hiring lawyers. Is that a bad idea? So far we agree on property division and custody, but who knows what the coming days will bring.