I need some advice... See, my long-time best friend lives across the country in Oregon, so we never see each other face-to-face. It's been about three months since she's been on Skype or on Steam, or anywhere else online. I know she's taken some long breaks without notice in the past, but this is definitely the biggest. I'm worried that the worst may have happened, and sadly I don't think that's much of a stretch. She and I used to talk to each other pretty much daily, about very deep stuff. On a couple of occasions, she had actually attempted suicide. Not just threatened it, but really attempted. I would do my best to help her through it, and I'm sure her other friends were also helpful, but I don't think anyone has been able to reach her in a long time. Add that to the fact that just before she disappeared, she had actually started hormone replacement therapy (she's transgender). So that unfortunately opens the possibility of bullying and public ridicule and such, plus the added stress of what is essentially a second round of puberty.

So I need to know whether you think it's best to keep waiting, or to try to find her town's obituaries for the past few months and just hope I don't see her name. Which, actually, I might not recognize... I only ever knew her by her female name and not her 'actual' one. I think I know what it is, but I could be wrong, and that could mean I would come to the wrong conclusion if I decide to look into it. It's just hard because we have no mutual friends and she doesn't use Facebook or anything, so I can't make contact with anyone who actually lives with or near her.

So... is it better to keep hoping, or to start looking for closure?