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I'm Alive! And Back! (For Now...)

I have returned from my long Oppo slumber. Been dealing with university and adult life since I arrived in the UK last year. Time for a little update. Or a big one, however you look at it. It gets personal.

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So it’s been nearly 10 months since my last post. In the time I’ve been gone, I’ve settled in fairly well. Made new friends and connections but inevitably a few enemies too. First year of uni has already gone and I’m looking to pass well but it hasn’t been plain sailing. Independence teaches and brings to light so many things you didn’t know before, either about the world or yourself. I only found out a few weeks ago that when I arrived in the UK, I had completely slipped in under the radar of the Registry Office here and so I have literally been given no support by the university since I have been here, even though I am enrolled on their course. So, as everyone has told me, for me to have completed a full year with little to no administrative support has been nothing short of a miracle.

But I haven’t been completely trouble free. Long story cut short - I fell sick sometime in February due to a viral infection which gave me extended fatigue and I couldn’t finish some work on time. Luckily, I have been given an opportunity to resit the assessment but unfortunately I’m still plagued with the infection. Combined with not having seen neither parents or old friends for months because finances are strained and I can’t fly back home, the stress of losing a university referendum and the looming threat of the EU referendum, I have begrudgingly accepted the fact I am suffering from depression. I hate using the word because I know there are others out there who have it far worse than I do, but there have definitely been dark periods in the past few months where I have really felt down and very alone.


Furthermore despite my love of cars and driving (why else would I be here?), because finances are tight, I have yet to buy a car to drive. I haven’t even had the time to get a driving licence. Sure I’ve got the money to buy a running car - in fact I’ve been eyeing up either of these two Volvos below for the past two weeks or so, but.

Running costs are the killer - especially insurance and tax. I was quoted at least £1440 by the nearest reputable insurance company as a young driver to insure a Volvo 440 for one year, and that’s not counting the £235 p/a to tax - UK Opponauts will understand and feel my pain. Now conceivably (and UK Opponauts will understand this too), I could apply for a Statutory Off The Road Notice and keep the car off the road until I can afford to drive, but I don’t really have a place to keep it. The only parking space I have will be on-street residential parking next academic year, and that’s not really great for safety. That’s also why I haven’t been posting much here - the depression has rendered me quite withdrawn, and without a car to talk about and live with, has only made it worse. Essentially I haven’t found the inspiration to make any posts with original content, until now.


Fortunately, there is a happier side. I was very lucky to have met someone who is now my boyfriend and has been nothing but complete and utter support in the times I have been down. He’s a few years older and has already graduated so he understands everything that I have gone through and some. And if timing permits, he and I will be travelling around the UK in nothing other than a Dacia Sandero! He and I will be celebrating Pride in York tomorrow.

Also - heads up to Canadian Opponauts based around Toronto - I’m coming to your lovely city for about two weeks just in time for Toronto Pride! My lovely sister has decided I need to explore my sexuality even further and has invited me over. Landing on the 29th!


So that’s all for now. Hopefully things will perk up within the next few months.

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