And I have nobody to blame but my fucking dumbass self. If you want the short version, my wife filed for divorce last week. If you want to learn from my mistakes, keep reading.

We got married on Halloween in 2015. It was supposed to be an outside wedding in the backyard of my mother’s place. We ended up getting married on the carport while it poured rain and the area was under a tornado warning. That was a sign of things to come.

We had some really great times. We drove from Mississippi to Las Vegas for our honeymoon and had a blast. She, like I, was into hearses, so we left the wedding and got taken to my car in the back of one. We’re both car people. We watched every season of Top Gear at least 4 times. We went to car shows. We worked on things together. I couldn’t have asked for a better wife.

Last year, though, things went south. I made some really poor decisions and in July it all came to a head. The next 6 months I did everything I possibly could to save our marriage. In the end, though, it simply wasn’t enough. She wanted time apart, so last month I left to stay with family to give her some time. A week and a half ago she had me come by to give me the news. It was over.

It’s not easy losing your best friend when you know you are the cause. We still tall and are still friendly to each other. Hell, we still love each other. In the end, though, she wanted to move on from our broken marriage. I know she will be ok. I will too eventually. It just really hurts right now.

People of Oppo, I didn’t say all this to ask for sympathy. I wanted to share because many of you are either dating or married. If I can offer any advise, it’s this: love your significant other. Treat them with respect. Take nothing for granted. Give them your fullest attention. If you don’t, you’ll end up drowning in your own sorrow like I am right now and regretting being born.

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Thanks for reading. Maybe you learned something. Maybe you didn’t. Life is hard enough as it is. Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Take care of the person you are with.