I work nights, so being able to sleep during the day is important to me. Anyone who bothers me in the hours immediately after I get home from work in the morning is likely to get an earful. I have even gone so far as to ask particularly troublesome people who have called in those hours for their home numbers so that I can call them at 1am and wake them up. I know this is a personal problem, so I usually try to ignore the phone during those hours, unless I get unlucky...
I got off work on Wednesday morning at 7am, went home, did the usual “pre sleeping” stuff and curled up in the dark with the phone on the charger. Sleeping during the day is troublesome at best, and even at the best of times I drift between sleep and a semi-sleep state where outside annoyance will wake me. So when I got a text message at 10am while in that state, it pulled me out of sleep enough to grumble at it and decide on a bathroom trip. I made the mistake of taking my phone and looking at it.
Not a screenshot because I hate text message screenshots, typos and bad grammar are all as typed.
Ex-Wife: I know this is a shot in the dark. But financially i have never asked in 16 years. If I could have any help.
So here it if there is any way possible that you could look into helping with <daughter name redacted> insurance on her care i would be greatly appreciative. If it you don’t have it i will understand.
What the hell?
I pay child support, on time and in full. When asked for specific expenses I have never failed to come up with whatever support was needed, even at times when I really couldn’t afford to. I spend as much time with my kids as I can, and since they’re both now teenagers, visit them when their schedules allow.
So I responded, asking a bunch of questions, and waited. And waited. And waited.
After two hours of waiting for a response, while staring at the back of my eyelids and not sleeping, I got up and went to help my dad with some things at his house. My sleep time had been shot to hell, but at least I didn’t have to go back to work on Wednesday night.
She didn’t get back to me at all until Thursday, and didn’t give me any real detail on the situation until today, and she still hasn’t really answered my questions. She sent me copies of her car insurance declarations. She’s paying over $5500 every six months for insurance on three cars, with worse insurance than I have for my more reasonable ~$650/6 months. Her coverages are all half of mine, with deductibles twice mine. Where on earth would she come up with $1000 if something happened to one of these cars?
Two years ago she came to me asking for my help in financing a car for our 2nd daughter. I said no. I recommended that the two girls share the car that they already had, to save on expenses. She didn’t choose to follow my advice. Fine. Ignore my advice at your own peril, but now I’m expected to pull her our of her self-inflicted fire.
I asked if this was just a short term, “need to help pay for a month or two”, or long term, “please put her on your car insurance”, kind of issue, but the responses have been unclear, and leading me down the road toward just adding said daughter and car to my insurance.
The whole thing pisses me off.
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Photo of said daughter and car for your time...